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June 9th, 2003

(no subject) @ 08:28 pm

Current Mood: panicy, morose

Current Music: Pegboy, Not What I Want

This whole 'getting panic attacks when thinking too hard about being social' thing really, really bites - especially when I get depressed during or afterwards from it, which in turn feeds more panic. The fun ends up lasting between half an hour and several hours.

The extra super fun dilemma I have is whether I need to try and work it out by being stable at home, or by aggressively going out and hanging with people. Of course, thinking too hard about this usually ends up bringing on more panic and depression.

Christ, I better not end up losing even more weight from this. That'd be Bad.

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From:	xeger
Date:	June 10th, 2003 12:43 am (UTC)

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Yeah, no kidding! I'd have to spend more time running my tape measure all over you...

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From:	monicat
Date:	June 10th, 2003 08:44 am (UTC)

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Are you usually social because you want to, or because you feel you "should" want to?

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From:	moof
Date:	June 10th, 2003 11:40 am (UTC)

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I really do like being social, and am actually pretty gregarious; the problem is that I'm mighty intimidated by people I don't know.
If I'm to ever interact with anyone other than the two people I hang out with right now (Phoebe and Robert - my housemates, whom I like and am comfortable with), that generally requires getting out and meeting people - and thence the whole problem arises.

Whether I'll be better able to deal with new people by sitting at home and stabilizing or forcibly confronting it by going out is a corollary to the original query.

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From:	monicat
Date:	June 10th, 2003 02:04 pm (UTC)

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I know a lot of folks who feel the same way about people they don't know. My friends are introverts when it comes to the world at large, but often extroverts around their own group of people.

Maybe you could compromise on your original query--meet a few people on your own turf through Phoebe or Robert, instead of forcing yourself into a go-out-mingle-with-stragners situation.

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From:	bolteroo
Date:	June 10th, 2003 01:06 pm (UTC)

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I've been experiencing *a lot* of approach and avoidance issues about being social (or the complete lack thereof), and the more I think about it the worse it gets.

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From:	fairyarmadillo
Date:	June 10th, 2003 07:56 pm (UTC)

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We should get together and have dinner or something mellow. Then you are out where there are people but you are with people you know... or is that hard too? I have a hard time going out and I have found that the longer I am away from people the harder it is to go out but when I do I usually have a good time.

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From:	moof
Date:	June 10th, 2003 08:07 pm (UTC)

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It's generally not too bad when it's people I know; the big harassment is that a whole lot of the people I know live at least 45m to an hour away - puts a damper on spur-of-the-moment stuff.

I'd be all for dinner or mellowness or whatever.

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