August 25th, 2004


Why I don't write many friends-only posts.

I was going to write about what I write about, but that's not so interesting - or at least, it didn't to me. The notion of scope, on the other hand, seemed much more fruitful; there's a fairly elaborate system of friends levels you can have and people use on a regular basis. So why do I not use it much?
  • I'm not a cute girl.

    I'm perhaps half-kidding. I'm unlikely to attract many stalkers, and the ones I know about are friendly and nice. (If there are any extant lurking ones, feel free to say hi!) In any case, I don't feel like I need to fear for my safety (edit: or anyone else's safety) by virtue of posting.

  • I have few oversharing boundaries/I have no shame

    Despite being amazingly shy - or perhaps because of it - I'm willing and able to talk about pretty much anything and everything. I do try to lj-cut the more sensitive issues, but that's more so people don't have to read it if they don't want, rather than me not talking about it at all. That's one of the nice things about a broadcast medium: you don't have to tailor things that much, you can just yammer on about whatever's on top of your head that day.

  • I want those normally not-talked-about things to be more out in the open.

    Sure, I go on a lot about the frustrations of being unable to communicate, or to connect with people, not being able to figure out what I want to do with my life, etc. Those things aren't particularly new, but I think they still need to be mentioned. Depression is slowly coming out as one of those things that it's OK to talk about. (It's only taken sixty years or so.) And then there's the new and uncommon - ADD? Asperger's? Gender dysphoria and transgenderism? I know I still have a hell of a lot of shame about those three, and I'm still coming to grips with them. Even if I don't make myself that well understood about them, at least I can make them better known.

  • I'm an intellectual whore. Or attention whore. Or some kind of whore.

    I'll admit it, I like to hear what people have to say about the stuff I think about and the stuff I write about, and friends-onlying the juicier tidbits limits my audience. I've found people browsing through my webpages after googling some entry of mine, so I know that the randoms are out there. (There's that academic wanker inside of me that likes the conceit that I'm adding to the corpus of knowledge about the human experience, but I usually make it go back in the gimp box pretty quickly.)

That said, I do friends-only a couple of things - things like "here's my address and phone number" - because I don't want them found with no effort whatsoever.

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    They Might Be Giants, See the Constellation