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June 27th, 2004

asperger's, depression, my family, 'n' me. (long) @ 11:10 pm

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Current Music: various mp3s from Bootie

 
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From:iphy
Date:June 30th, 2004 02:43 am (UTC)

What they said, mostly.

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A lot of these comments are very good. In particular I agree with your strength in being able to send this to your family (and share it with us, of course) and with adoor's comments regarding your dad bringing up your job and how much you make. It did sound like it was a very poorly worded attempt to congratulate you for the progress you've made on yourself while stressing that being able to eat and have a place to live are important too.

As for the "Depression" and "God" business. Well, have you seen the movie Donnie Darko? You know how everyone starts going to those seminars and then the whole world looks like a scalar between fear and love to them? His words, "I guess the main central term for most of the suffering is called Depression. At least that is what our Stephen ministry training calls it," sound an awful lot like that. My father-in-law is extremely fundamentalist Christian, and he does the same thing. As others have said, part of it is just trying to put things into terms he understands so he can try to grasp them and work with them. But, I also think part of it is that he really believes prayer is an answer for even the most serious things. I don't know your father; but I know my father-in-law had cancer recently and his response was prayer. It doesn't mean he thinks God will just wave a wand and cure things; it's just a way of approaching the world.

It's hard (for me, anyway) to have understanding for it. But, just as I want people like my father-in-law to respect that my way of approaching the world is different from them, I work hard to extend them the same courtesy. This is especially hard as many of them do not actually respect alternate approaches to life.

In any case, I would like to (again) say how impressed I am at your ability to share a thing like this with your family. On many levels I've never done this and I sometimes think I am the poorer for it. Way to go!

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