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December 20th, 2003

(no subject) @ 09:40 pm

Current Mood: relaxed relaxed
Current Music: Have yourself a stabby little Xmas

I got myself a wireless antenna for my 802.11 card; the 'net connection now ain't going up and down all the time. My pooter is happy, and so am I.

I got to see Return of the King on Wednesday; the movie itself was way cool, but even better was seeing the 350 friends and one degree of separation friends. There were people I hadn't seen for years, people I knew but hadn't actually met, and zillions of people I recognized but didn't know who they were. What was bizarre was my sensation of being in drag; even though I was wearing terribly normal clothing, people seemed to not recognize me at first (or second, or third). Admittedly, the last time I'd seen a bunch of these people I looked rather different (shorter hair, different color, etc) but even the people I knew fairly well seemed to react slightly differently than usual.

As I was driving home I thought about it some more, and I realized that at many of the previous occasions when I'd seen those people, I was wearing dresses; the fabric's better, the styles are more fun, and I look a lot snazzier in them than in the kinda dull men's clothing I have. It's not that I was wearing them as drag or to 'pass'; I wanted to stay very recognizably myself. I've felt trepidation at doing so ("is this socially acceptable? do I look bad? does this make me look fat?") but never had the feeling of being in drag - which was why wearing fairly normal attire was such a strange time for those feelings to happen.

On the other hand, I seem to have the amazing ability to be not seen. I was at Koinonea with kaligrrrl, where several people I knew came within five-ten feet of me, and I didn't even register to them. (Their reaction later was "have you been here long?") This ability seems to manifest more often when I'm socially uncomfortable, like when it's time to depart some mass gathering (because I frequently have no idea how to gracefully say goodbye to people, and end up just ducking out). Kaligrrrl asked me, after we talked about all the attractive people at Koinonea, "Are you going to hit on any of them?" The question instantly made my stomach curl up in a knot and go nauseous, so I'd say that was a pretty good indicator of being uncomfortable.

And speaking of uncomfortable, I'd be quite happy for the Xmas carols to stop being played, thanks.
 
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From:aceofkittens
Date:December 21st, 2003 12:51 am (UTC)

It's beginning to look a lot like... fa la la la la la la la la

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It's not at all the same thing, but I am always surprised when people recognize me when I'm wearing my glasses. It's that Clark Kent/Superman dichotomy, I think. I genuinely expect that they won't recognize me. :)

I also think that people tend to compartmentalize other people into "expected" categories. So seeing someone in a slightly different setting and different appearance confuses and confounds people.

In other words, um... well, if I don't recognize you with your clothes on, you know what to do!
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From:moof
Date:December 21st, 2003 03:07 am (UTC)

Re: It's beginning to look a lot like... fa la la la la la la la la

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I definitely get confused and confounded when someone from a given social group calls me by the "wrong" name; e.g. if one of the local gamers were to call me 'moof', or someone via LJ were to call me 'Tom'.

And I know precisely what to do if you don't recognize me with my clothes on: say "hi! I'm moof!"
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From:aceofkittens
Date:December 21st, 2003 11:05 am (UTC)

fa la la la la la la la la la...

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Yay! Now I know what I must do! :) (Ren voice)

:)
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From:dr_beep
Date:December 21st, 2003 08:44 am (UTC)
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Yeah it was good seeing you, One thing about these things is I always wish I had more time to hang out with all the people I don't see very often, I want to hang out and be social, yet I am stressed about time, seating, etc, and then when it's over I'm so damn tired I just want to go to sleep in the popcorn machine and call it a night!
From:aad
Date:December 21st, 2003 09:11 pm (UTC)

walks into walls, not through

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Dude, you were totally noticeable at ROTK. On the other hand, the reason I did not notice you at Koinonea was that I was in bed coughin.
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From:kaligrrrl
Date:December 23rd, 2003 05:58 pm (UTC)
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urgh. I hope I don't have a talent for making you uncomfortable...
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From:moof
Date:December 23rd, 2003 06:02 pm (UTC)
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Nah, I don't think you do.
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From:saturnia
Date:February 10th, 2004 02:55 am (UTC)

Like ships, but I didn't leave the dock

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I almost went to 2012 but had too much else draining me that week / weekend!

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