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October 15th, 2014

(no subject) @ 07:59 pm

Related to the last post: I think I need to stop commenting on Facebook for a while.

People have been super up in arms about the Gamergate horribleness, as well they should be; nobody should get death threats for talking about video games, nor should they have to deal with all the misogyny and other sexist bullshit that's unfortunately part of everyday life. However, it seems that almost inevitably when people talk about it, they also get wrapped up with super-emotional arguments and start to define things in terms of absolutes. And asking about such brings derision, scorn, or outright dismissal. So, better to keep to myself, not try to contribute, and watch a few more logs get stoked in my crippling fear of interaction. It's not that I can't read emotions in people; it's that I don't know what the fuck to do when I see them, as my natural reactions seem to do little good.
 
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From:randomdreams
Date:October 16th, 2014 05:44 am (UTC)
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I've been following, and appalled by, that discussion. What appalls me most, I think, is people denying that there's even an issue.
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From:moof
Date:October 16th, 2014 06:42 am (UTC)
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I know that they're out there, but I don't think I know anybody that thinks that. At least, I hope not.
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From:randomdreams
Date:October 16th, 2014 02:32 pm (UTC)
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I don't personally know people, but I read lots of places full of people who are claiming that all the threats against people who are talking about this are fake threats that they're making. That's almost unbelievable to me. (Especially when the police are actively arresting people for making death threats against one writer, and people flat-out deny that that's happening.)
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From:moof
Date:October 16th, 2014 05:29 pm (UTC)
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"You should just grow a thicker skin! It's just a death threat!"
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From:randomdreams
Date:October 17th, 2014 04:37 am (UTC)
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arrrr.
and I hate to say it but I'm guilty of having done this in the past.
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From:chipadeedoodah
Date:October 17th, 2014 02:53 am (UTC)
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The deal for me is that it pokes exactly the buttons that lead to Righteous Zeal. Assholes attacking a progressive movement with violence, catalyzed by an idiot airing dirty laundry about his ex and fueled by right-wing politics?

There's no place for moderation there and there can't be. Tribalism has kicked in, including me, and there's nowhere to have a rational conversation based in empathy for everyone until it's run the course.unfortubstely every time reconciliation seems possible, someone else feeds the giddamned Fire so it gets hard to see again.
Mall very sad.
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From:valree
Date:October 22nd, 2014 02:40 am (UTC)
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Even people who can read emotions well don't know what to do when people are in distress. I don't anyway.

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